A new way of relating

I have spent this year working on a new way or relating to others in conflict. I have several friends who have helped me do this in a very stressful situation this year. And I have relearned a saying that I have not mastered yet – and may never master. It goes like this and is from Victor Frankl, who wrote Man’s Search for Meaning, a book I must read before the end of this year. 

In between the stimulus and response, there is a space. And in that space lies all your power. 

I always have given away my space, my power, by reacting right away. I have learned this year, through great struggle, to sit with the anger, discomfort, fear that have made me give away that space in the past. That the situation will still be there in a minute or an hour or a day. That letting it sit and giving it time gives you a better perspective on an appropriate response or no response at all. I have also learned, through doing this, that sometimes silence is more powerful than anything I can say, and says more about what I think than anything I can say.

This has been one of the most painful years of my life. The feelings for me that had previously been kept under a false politeness have broken into the open. Blatant hostility is not easy to sit in the midst of, but I have done it. It helped that the sources of hostility are not people I have trusted or wanted in my life regardless of what this year brought. We are on different levels of the universe plane: just ships passing in the night. So I didn’t suck in the dislike, etc. But it still wasn’t comfortable to sit with.

Every day, the Universe teaches me another lesson. Painful though they have been, I am grateful for every one.


Healing Crystal and Stone Jewelry, Raw Stones, Raw Modern Jewelry

I make healing stone jewelry, silver and copper. I use many raw stones, also known as rough stones, and I pair them with silver and copper tubes, beads, and little doodads I create also. These healing crystal and stone jewelry pieces have stones that are thought to have healing powers. This raw modern necklace has raw tourmaline stones, electroformed with copper, and silver beads.

You can find this and my other healing jewelry at http://www.marendunnstudio.com  – my kind of hippie, kind of boho shop!

Here is an explanation of the crystal healing properties of tourmaline. As always, this is not in place of modern medical treatment, rather is a partner to good western medicine.

The Health Benefits of Tourmaline Gemstone

Tourmaline emits far infrared radiation in the 4-14 micron wavelength. Electromagnetic radiation in the far infrared range is able to boost the immune system and promote detoxification. In fact, far infrared therapy is widely used in Japan by Kikohshi, people who heal by the laying of hands. [4]

Make no mistake, tourmaline is a powerful ally when your body is in need of detoxification. The far infrared rays created by tourmaline actually produce the same resonance in the body that is normally found in water. This form of resonance absorption helps relieve stress, increase alertness, stimulate circulation, and boost the immune system. Here are just a few of the powerful effects from tourmaline.

From https://www.globalhealingcenter.com/natural-health/benefits-of-tourmaline-gemstone/?gclid=Cj0KCQjwruPNBRCKARIsAEYNXIgrfbCnh6g6O2SkMpHRp3xYORlGSxDE9SsNTTG-Rq-BjHVmj9a4_cQaAm-hEALw_wcB

What is Totem Jewelry?

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What is totem jewelry?
According to Webster’s, a totem is:
: something (such as an animal or plant) that is the symbol for a family, tribe, etc., especially among Native Americans
: a usually carved or painted figure that represents such a symbol
: a person or thing that represents an idea
In shamanism, a totem animal is a power animal. How do you find your power animal? You journey to find it, or you have a shaman journey to find it for you.
The shaman belief is that if a person doesn’t have a power animal, he/she won’t live very long in infancy. We all have power animals; we just don’t know them. They are waiting for us to come and meet them. If you dream about an animal frequently, or see an animal often, it could be your power animal trying to get your attention. It could also be a sign of something that you need to pay attention to.
So…getting back to the original, totem jewelry is jewelry that honors your power animal. That reminds you of the love and protection you continually receive from your spiritual ally.
You can find this butterfly totem necklace in my etsy shop here:

Stories from 2016 – March 15th

I was feeling very low energy last week. I had a lot going on: two days of classes in Albany, lots of pottery to make and, of course, my full time job. Progress reports were due, which always stresses me out. I didn’t want to do anything but go home and sit on the couch on Friday, but I had a coffee date with my friend Luann, so I decided to go.

We met in Saratoga Springs for coffee at Uncommon Grounds, a great coffee shop/cafe, and I’m so glad I went. Luann always inspires me: she is well-travelled, very upbeat, full of creativity and ideas. She also teached kundalini yoga, which I want to try soon. We decided that she’s going to take some pottery lessons so she can perhaps work with me and help me if my business gets busier. I haven’t even done any advertising yet, and it’s getting busier, so it’s a real possibility. So Friday was a success.

My daughter Kate came home, so we went to Saratoga, again, on Saturday. I needed some stuff for my workshop I’m offering April 2nd (you can read about it here – it’s a Learn to Journey workshop I’m offering in Saratoga Spring. I went home and didn’t do much: I have some pottery to make, jewelry to finish and I want to make Katie a new quilt for her May birthday.

Sunday I wanted to sit on the couch. Plans got complicated, so I suggested that Bill and I go for a hike. We went to Spectacle Pond , a mile and a half hike near Schroon Lake. It was wonderful!! There was some snow/ice still on the paths, but it was easy to avoid by walking around and there was a gorgeous brook all the way up to the top.  Afterwards, we had a quick bite to eat, and then home. With the time change, it seems like we lost most of the day. I hate the day we change the time, but I love the later sunsets.

Busy week, this week. Am traveling, so I need to get organized. It seems like time doesn’t stand still for anything recently. This school year is going so quickly, I can’t believe it. Time goes more quickly the older I get, it seems.